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Monday, February 4, 2013

Superbowl and Beyonce


Just after the Superbowl halftime show on Sunday evening, a commercial for Two Broke Girls was aired. The two broke girls were pole dancing in a sleazy version of their waitress uniforms.

Since my 12 and 14-year-old daughters were watching, and since they had just witnessed Beyonce’s halftime show, which sent me scowling away from the TV and into the next room, I had to act. It was lecture time.

Beyonce and her “entertainment image” and her black leather bathing-suit-like outfit were what sent me away scowling, and what prompted the lecture. She could have done those dance routines in something less, oh, shall we say, S&M-ish, couldn’t she? Sexy isn’t all about cleavage and leg, Beyonce, sexy is about charisma, sly winks and the promise of hidden secrets. I’d heard people calling her a “goddess,” but I don’t get that image from her.

Ann Powers of NPR said this in this article today: “When artists take on the burden of being role models, adapting themselves to an ideal, the pressure for them to be authentic increases a million-fold.” Personally, as the mother of 12 and 14-year-old daughters, I think it’s far less important whether a role model like Beyonce actually sings during a Super Bowl Spectacular (as opposed to lip-synching to her own, recorded self) than whether she is a positive role model.  She has a lot to offer young girls, as talented a singer and performer as she is. Why does she have to sleaze it up all the time, and make it look like her primary objective is to get all the men to drool? It seems to me, there are higher objectives in the mind of a true “goddess.”  

16 comments:

  1. YES. I agree with everything you've said here. I have a 3 year old daughter, and I actually stopped letting her watch, because she doesn't understand, and I didn't want her imitating that kind of sleaze. Beyonce is an incredibly talented woman, but her image and provocativeness prevents me from truly being a fan. I wish more women would embrace dressing and acting (and dancing!) classy.

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  2. Also, the clothes available for today's 12 year olds are getting embarrassing (they're so revealing). I'm afraid of letting my 2 year old daughter grow up in this world. :(

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    1. No kidding! At least my oldest is a jean and t-shirt every day kind of girl.

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  3. So agree with you Kristen. It's disgusting how we portray teenage girls and women with such a focus on their bodies and sexiness. That's so not good role models for our girls.

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  4. Scantily clad is provocative, but other things -- like intelligent conversation to start -- are a whole lot sexier.

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  5. Kristen, I have 2 grown sons & granddaughter & grandson. I agree with you & suspect rest of my family does too. Especially our oldest son whose daughter will soon be 9. I didn't like sexual objectification, all the way back in dark ages when I was growing up. PS I didn't watch Super Bowl. I'm so out of it I object to making national entertainment out of brain bashing.

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  6. I stopped by to leave a comment about the snow! But then saw this and decided to comment here instead. Soooo, my views on this are complicated. I'm a big believer in owning your own sexuality. As such, my daughter and I talk about EVERYTHING. Can you wear something incredibly sexy and still be a good role model, in my opinion, yes. Too often I feel like girls are encouraged to subvert their sexuality as though its something shameful. Do I want my daughter to wear Beyonce superbowl style clothing? Not particularly, but I also want her to know if she someday chooses to dress like that and it makes her feel strong or powerful in some way, even if I don't fully understand it, I'll support her decision and wouldn't label her.

    I know this isn't what you're saying in your post. I've really just touched on the tip of the iceberg here. Gosh I wish we could sit down and have a cup of coffee! I feel like we'd have so much to talk about...and not just on this subject. :)

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